Real Talk: Kassidy Love

Emily DaFoeComment

Have you ever dreamed of packing up and moving to another country for an adventure? Well, this mama and her husband did just that. From Nicaragua to Napa and down to Mexico, Kassidy and Ben Love realized that their lives would feel more complete and fulfilled by living a simpler life in San Pancho, Mexico. They recently opened a real estate and development office called Wanderlust Real Estate and have embraced all that Mexico has to offer with two boys under 5!

Where are you from?   

Born and raised in Wyoming, lived in California for 11 years, Nicaragua for 6 years and now Mexico for the last 3 years.  Loaded question.

Who are your small folk?

We've got two BOYS.  Five year old Maverick, creative storyteller who loves to dance, and raging three-year old Indio, who we also call "Stan", future linebacker, aggressive hugger and kisser, loves to crush anything. 

What’s your thing? (career, business, ambition etc)

I'm a photojournalist and filmmaker by trade, but wear many hats.  I have run an all inclusive surf lodge in Central America and am currently running a Real estate and Development firm in San Pancho, Mexico, in the Riviera Nayarit.  

What was the most challenging thing about relocating to a foreign country with babies?

The most challenging is missing our family.  We aren't even that far from them, but internet is shotty so Facetime is in and out.  

Also, finding organic foods and natural medicines are a bit more difficult, but they do exist.... just a bit more of a drive.  

Other than that, I find it a much easier place to raise kids.  We can walk everywhere, and people in the town really look out for each other's kids.  The pace is perfect... I don't ever feel the pressure.  I can sit down and have a margarita with my kids and my dog in the restaurant, and no one looks at me cross-eyed.  And the staff will always try to make the kiddos smile.  It's a win-win.  

What do you find most challenging about motherhood?

Finding time for myself.  And wondering if I'm teaching them what I'm supposed to be teaching them.  I always feel like I should be doing more, like teaching them to ride a bike or write their names or read!  I don't know the standard protocol!

What are your most favorite things to do with your kids?

We love to walk through town and pretend that we are searching for dinosaurs.  We pick up clues like feathers or a leaf that has been torn (or chomped by Triceratops).  I make them believe I saw a glimpse of a tail down the next street and they run like maniacs to catch it.  Good source of exercise:)

Do you feel like you need to be more present?

Absolutely.  But what working parent doesn't??

How do you practice being present with your children in a time when there are so many distractions?

I like to sit down and do a puzzle with them or a game of memory or read a book with them.  Most times, I end up finishing the puzzle (because I'm OCD like that) while my 3 year old tries to destroy it, so I take it as a hint, relinquish control over the play and move on to whatever they want to do at that time.  You've got to be flexible.

Do you have technology free time?

They are allowed to watch a movie or play pre-school on their ipad in the afternoon after school for an hour or two.  Then it's play outside time.  If they wake up too early in the morning, we will put on a quiet movie as well.  

Any tips for the moms out there?

Take time for yourself.  Hire a damn babysitter.  Don't try to control everything.  It's okay if your house is a mess, just sit down for a second.  Hell, take a nap.   

I tried to do everything myself the first two years of my first born's life, and the moment I sent him to daycare, it was like the clouds opened up and I was free again!  And it was good for him too!