We are mothers. We are storytellers, encouragers, lovers, seekers, hand holders, nose wipers, boo-boo kissers; we are wipe the tears away, pick you up and, hold you tight. We are dream whisperers, nurturers, carry you when you need carrying and set you straight when you need that too. We are mothers.
A community of mothers, who want to set alight and reconnect you to the whole point of it all... To live a life connected, with purpose, with presence.
We are Present Day Moms.
I was missing the point of it all.
For 7 years I had had the wonderful gift of being a stay at home mom and I had busied myself into a frantic way of living. A deep discontentment, almost resentment was growing within and I found myself wishing away my days. Daydreaming of a ‘better’ more ‘exciting life’, I had been oblivious to the gift of the 10 tiny fingers and 10 tiny toes that were in front of me. And that my friends, is a heartbreaking travesty.
In November 2018 I was diagnosed with an extremely (1 in a million) rare life threatening genetic blood disease and it shook my inner world. I am embarrassed to admit that it took this frightening and unexpected diagnosis to give me the kick in the butt that I needed.
I had a huge awakening and realized that TIME is the greatest GIFT, and the greatest LEGACY that I can give my kids. This realization has bled out onto other parts of my life, and I joke with my friends that even the wind rustling in the trees sounds differently these days. I am determined to see the everyday graces of my messy, sometimes even mundane life, and to build a life of meaningful connection with my friends and family with a thankful heart.
I hope these activities will encourage you to put down your phone and embrace all that motherhood throws at you. Don’t miss it.
Alana Clumeck resides in Santa Barbara, California with her husband, 2 kids and 1 very naughty Australian Shepherd. She is weirdly obsessed with eating all things pickled and is pretty sure she was a country singing cowgirl in a past life… Though she can’t hold a tune nor ride a horse. Alana originates from a small country town in rural Western Australia, where she grew up with a very creative and mischievous life before iPhones and social media.
After a long and taxing career in Acting and Voice Overs, followed by an extremely intense catering career in NYC, two back to back pregnancies and a breakdown of my relationship, I noticed an increasing amount of toxic anxiety in myself. The truth is, I was no longer in the 'now'. My intense need to prove myself to everyone, to make more money, and be at the top of my game came at a cost, and the sad thing was; I wasn't even happy.
I was living in the future; driving myself for more, more, more. Alongside my growing inner anxiety, my 3-year-old was having stress attacks and acute sensitivities to sound along with mild seizures. She was grinding her teeth and moaning while she slept, having terrible and sometimes violent interactions with her caregivers, friends, and myself. The last straw was after a very public tantrum, my little girl began kicking me and slapped me across the face. I saw her loving face buried beneath her anger and frustration, unable to communicate and feeling utter fear. I was at a loss. What was I doing wrong?
After many worried days and consulting a child therapist, who's advice seemed the wrong direction (medication), I took a long look at where my life had journeyed to. I realized I wasn't truly present for my daughter, and I took a leap of faith. I quit my high paying executive position, and with it the long and grinding hours. I gave up my penthouse apartment on the water and my brand new car and said goodbye. And, after almost a year of traveling and trying to find myself and family, I moved us to the mountains. I decided to commit to being PRESENT.
I'm currently utilizing my career in voice-overs, meditation, and teacher training to create a fun and beneficial meditation program for kids ( www.blissfulbebes.com). I'm inspired to help others develop mindfulness to lead a happier and healthier life. I currently spend my days at the farm, immersed in playing, dreaming, manifesting, and creating (alongside cleaning up potties and trying hard to eliminate tantrums).
Life is GOOD. Life is NOW. And I'm over the moon to report my daughter is more joyous than ever!
I was sick of saying, “just a minute baby, I am almost finished!”
After I had my son, I hit the ground running. Maybe it was to prove I could do it all, or maybe it was a desperate attempt to keep my lifestyle exactly the same as it was before he was born. Realty check, it isn’t! Just three weeks after giving birth - via emergency c-section - I participated in trunk show for my handbag collection…then did three more back to back. While it was great to hear everyone telling me how I bounced back, or they were so happy to see me out and about, none of them told me I should be home enjoying infant bliss. Nope, I was gung-ho and right back into action with production, the holidays, our wine label, and my “real job.” Self-care or down time was at the bottom of the totem pole and I made sure I hustled and “did it all!”
While juggling all of my hats I hit a wall and realized something had to give. After we moved out to the country and my son turned 1, I made the tough decision to shut down my business to focus on motherhood and to slow down. I regret to say, that never happed! I just put my creative energy into another business or kept myself just as busy as I was before with different client projects. Making handbags was my passion, and makes me happy so I slowly started incorporating it back into my life, but without the desperation or drive I once had.
Today, my little man is 3 and at such a fun age. I have to force myself to put the computer away, shut down the phone, and focus 100% on him. When I was asked to contribute to Present Day Moms, I felt like a hypocrite because I am far from a present mom, but I am trying. My goal is to make small changes every single day to redirect my energy and time towards the most important thing in my life, my family.
Emily lives in the Santa Barbara wine country with her husband Rob and their 3 year old son Waylon. She is the driving force behind E.R. Leather Goods, a handmade leather accessories company which she launched in 2009, and is the creator of a lifestyle marketing company run under her name, Emily DaFoe.